A Dating Update

I have been on one other Tinder date. We spent a month texting and he seemed totally charming and bit laddish. I enjoyed the flirting and we had a lot to talk about. We talked about meeting about a week in. He cancelled on me last minute. We settled on another date, which he forgot about. I really wasn't phased because he was about to sit exams and also, I'm not going to get all annoyed at someone I haven't ever met.

When we fixed a new date, he wanted to call me first. I hate phone calls but went along with it. I was surprised by how he sounded. He talked like he was being interviewed for a job and sounded a bit nervous. We had a good chat though. I figured maybe he would be different in person.

He wasn't. I went to Canterbury to meet him as it is a lovely place and if it didn't go well, at least I was somewhere beautiful. He was shorter than I thought. We had discussed height and he had assured me he was an inch taller than me. I felt much taller than him but he did slouch a bit. We went for a drink and got some food. Still managed to chat lots but he still sounded like he was being interviewed. He was soooo nervous! I always assume I will be the shyer one with least confidence in any situation. So I was a bit thrown to be the more confident of us both. All the charm from his texts was gone. It just wasn't what I hoped and I was not attracted to him.

Now, I know that after just two dates you might think I am jumping the gun a bit... But I am over Tinder. I realised that it is just not for me. I hate the expectation and disappointment. And I found texting all the time bloody exhausting. I was tired of always needing my phone on me, anticipating contact, waiting for responses, holding back so the conversation drags out longer. And as someone recently pointed out to me, everyone on Tinder is chatting to lots of people at once. You get forgotten in a string of messages, or you might forget someone you could have hit it off with. It's thin and distant.

Plus, as I have said before, I am a total romantic and I believe in things happening for a reason, and what's meant to be will be. I would prefer to meet someone in person and know who they are up front and know what I think of them straight away.

I realised I am happy the way I am. Sure I get lonely sometimes but I do not need a relationship to be a happy person. :)